Recommended Reading

The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work

John Gottman, PhD., 1999, Three Rivers Press ISBN: 0-609-80579-7

Gottman draws on 25 years of research in the field of marriage and family therapy to identify the 7 principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, it is a guide for anyone who wants to enhance their relationship.

Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls us Apart

William J. Doherty, PhD, 2001, Guilford Press ISBN: 1-57230-459-6

This book describes how to break free of confusing desires with needs. He offers rituals that stand the test of time and offers help for the sabotage that family or friends may offer may not believe that commitment is worth fighting for.

How Loving Couples Fight

James L. Creighton, PhD, 1998, Aslan Publishing ISBN: 0-944031-71-4

Creighton offers a fresh, insightful and practical guide to help couples explore better ways to solve their relationship problems, and to avoid the scenario of "going away mad". Everyone can learn how to address issues in interpersonal conflict without hurting the other person. He offers 12 essential tools for working due to her in building a supportive and loving relationship.

After The Affair

Janice Abrams Spring, PhD, 1997, HarperCollins ISBN: 0-06-092817-4

This book explains to partners how they can help themselves to the shattering crisis of infidelity. It exploits the questions of why did this happen, can we ever get the trust back, should I recommit, how to become sexually intimate again is forgiveness possible. This book is an excellent resource for those going to the aftermath of an affair.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

Mira Kirshebaum, 1997, Plume ISBN: 0452275350

Kirshebaum draws on years of experience as a counselor to lead readers from the state of ambivalence to clear sense of knowing what to do.

Rebuilding, When your Relationship Ends

Bruce Fisher, 1981, Impact Publishers ISBN: 0-91-5166-95-X

This landmark book walks one through the many stages of feelings that the person who has been "dumped" fields as well as the person who was the "dumpee". Fisher identifies the many feelings that people have and offers hope that life will go on and become joyful again.

Spiritual Divorce - Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life

Debbie Ford, 2002, Harper Collins, ISBN: 0-06-251696-5

Ford's own story of divorce and the stories of other illustrate her 7 spiritual laws of healing. They are acceptance, surrender, responsibility, divine guidance, choice, forgiveness and creation. She provides tools to assist in the self-discovery from the opportunities that divorce provides.

Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All

Gerald G. Jampolsky, MD, 1999, Beyond Words Publishing ISBN: 11-58270-020-6

This book explains why it is so hard to be forgiving and why holding on to suffering is really a decision to suffer. It goes on to point out the toxic side of being unforgiving and how leads us to the benefits of forgiving.

Forgiveness: How to make Peace with your Past and Get on with your Life

Dr. S. Simon and Suzanne Simon, 1990, Warner Books ISBN: 0-446-39259-6

This book walks the reader through the various stages of exploring the hurt, denial, self-blame, being a victim, integration and healing to experience unconditional love.

You Can Heal Your Life

Louise Hay, 1984, Hay House, ISBN: 0-937611-01-8

Louise Hay presents a framework for looking at physical symptoms as a reflection of emotional distress. A strong proponent of changing your world through the power of your thoughts, Hay offers affirmations for a variety of ailments that have proven to be helpful to thousands of readers.

The Four Agreements

Don Miguel Ruiz, 1997, Amber-Allen Publishing, ISBN: 1-878424-31-9

Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, this book offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness and love.

Who Moved My Cheese?

Spencer Johnson, MD. 1998, Putman, ISBN:0-399-14446-3

This wonderful little story is for everyone who feels overwhelmed by the rapid change in the workplace, at home and within relationships. Johnson presents four different reactions to change and offers insights into why some work better than others do.

The Pilgrimage

Paulo Coellho, 1998, HarperCollins, ISBN: 0-06-251279-X

The story of a spiritual journey of a middle-aged man trying to find himself and clarity about the direction of his life. Part adventure, part guide to self-mastery, this tale delivers a powerful brew of magic and insight.

Full Catastrophe Living, Using the Wisdom of your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain and Illness

Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD., 1990, Dell Publishing, ISBN: 0-3385-30312-2

This book describes the program of the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center. It is a practical guide not only to mindfulness, meditation and healing but to accomplish spiritual practice into daily life.

Anatomy of the Spirit

Caroline Myss PhD., 1996, Three Rivers Press, ISBN: 0-6609-80014-0

Myss, a medical intuitive presents a framework of examining the seven centres of spiritual and physical power within the ancient wisdom of the Hindu chakras, the Christian sacraments and the Kabbalah's Tree of Life. This framework expands who we are from genetics within our families but also within the context of the community and society in which we live.

Sacred Contacts

Caroline Myss PhD., 2001, Random House, ISBN: 0-517-70392-0

In her latest book, Myss expands her thinking to offer new insights to understanding who you are, what is your life purpose and how to make the best use of your personal power to achieve your fullest potential. If unfamiliar with her earlier works, I suggest reading ANATOMY OF SPIRIT first.

Intuitive Healing

Judith Orloff, MD, 2000, Three Rivers Press, ISBN: 8129-3098-3

This book presents five steps to physical, emotional and sexual wellness. This psychiatrist encourages people to take responsibility for their own well being by offering many suggestions of how to tune in to your own health by developing your own intuition and honoring the messages that you receive.

The Wisdom of Menopause, Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing During Change

Christiane Northrup, 2001, Bantam, ISBN: 0-553-80121-0

This wonderful book addresses many of the issues that women entering menopause need to know. She covers issues involving physical changes, changes in relationships, emotional well being in a clear and straightforward manner. This is a must buy book for women entering the mid- lifetime of menopause.